Why does Metta to a difficult person unearth disproportionate anger from family trauma?

Namaste Rohan. What you are experiencing is not a failure of meditation; it is a "Karmic Purge." Born July 7, 1992, your chart shows a Mars-Moon (Chandra-Mangal) connection, often associated with intense, fiery emotions. Your 4th House (Family/Home) likely holds "Samskaras" (impressions) of old anger. When you try to send kindness to a difficult person, your brain links their "difficulty" to the "difficulty" of your past. The person is just the "Key" that opened the "Door" to your family trauma. Detailed Solution: Yes, it is time to pivot. If the Metta triggers a disproportionate outburst, your nervous system is telling you it's not ready for "Forgiveness" yet. The Pivot: Use your meditation time for "Anger Metabolization." Journaling is excellent. You must "Exhaust" the anger on paper before you can "Evoke" love in the heart. Detailed Remedies: Remedy: Practice "Suryabhedana Pranayama" (Right nostril breathing) to process and release the heat of the anger. Physical Release: Engage in vigorous physical activity (walking, lifting) before meditating to "spend" the Mars energy. Mantra: Chant "Om Hanumate Namah". Lord Hanuman is the master of controlled power and can help you stabilize the family-related emotional outbursts